I was sitting at dinner with my girlfriend, fairly nice restaurant, next to a couple. Tables were in close proximity, and it was an ‘upscale’ place, so it wasnt to terribly loud, and we were able to hear most of what went down…
Guy is there with a woman, waiter greets them, guy says that they are here for their 20th anniversary, and that they have never been to the restaurant before. They order, etc. About 10 minutes into the meal, another waiter drops by the table and says something like “hey {guys name} good seeing you, back so soon huh?” I guess this clued the wife in, and she had a meltdown right then and there. She said something along the lines of “I knew you were cheating you asshole” Both sides commence yelling, cussing, she was crying, it was real bad.
Everyone just stared, I mean what do you do in that situation? The lady slapped him in the face and stormed out of the restaurant in tears. Everyone applauded, and a few people mumbled ‘asshole’ etc to the guy.
It was a really awkward, sad situation all around.
I know this sounds cheesy, but seeing the hurt and heartache in that womans face was pretty depressing. Pretty sad the value (or lack of) that we put on our committments these days.
Thats what a few of us were joking about, but the guy basically admitted to it during their little spat at the table. He said something like “well this is what happens when you {something about being demanding}”
My wife and I were outside enjoying a cool breeze talking, and our neighbors car pulls up. This wife is in tears yelling at the husband. They go inside and she starts throwing his shit in their front yard. Police show up, and arrest the woman. I guess she hit him or some such.
The dude (cheater) is a middle school principal locally, and after that “fight” he was bringing his whore over to the house multiple times. They ended up putting it up for rent.
I hope cheaters burn in hell.
If you’re married and find out your spouse is cheating…move out before they get home and RECORD it, secure assets, and do not have any contact except through a lawyer or court. Stay with a buddy who can attest to your whereabouts when you are not at work. All it takes is one accusation to lose your gun rights or get a DV conviction. If I found out my wife I was cheating I would not even be there when she got home. Id be somewhere else with a witness to where I was. A woman call call 911, have the tiniest mark on her, and you are going to jail. Especially if custody is involved a woman fighting against a man with a DV conviction will win 99.9% of the time. They will even go so far as to claim sexual abuse against kids and rape as the reason for divorce. “The first one to call 911 is the victim”.
Who knows. We tried our best, despite being 10 feet away, to mind our own business.
That said, the guy acted like a total prick who knew he’d gotten busted. Finger pointing, demeaning, etc. I’m normally a “side with the guys, as women can be heinous bitches” type, but this guy gave off strong dickhead vibes, through and through.
Normally yes women usually don’t start any thing in public unless they have a good reason to. But even if they are in the wrong the public Sympathy will always be on there side.
Thats why I told my wife Id rather live the rest of my life in jail for non payment than ever work to pay her if she cheated. Id nuke my life, and pay cash for everything before I ever paid her cent, and if I got sent to jail over it she’d most definitely get nothing. No way Id ever pay a cheating whore a cent of money, and if she wants to jump ropes the new rope can pay for it.
ETA: But then again we are not into singles nights and going out with people neither of us know. The only time Ive gone out without her was with a neighbor we know well to see a movie, and we were home by 11. I would never go out to a bar or whatever without her, and she would not do that, either. No sudden “staying late at the office” or “going out with the girls” to a bar. No hiding cell phones, and in fact we have the same code on our phones. She’ll use mine if she can’t find hers or its low on juice. Same with me. She’s on “my” computer half the time anyways. We know each others email passwords and face book accounts. We have a pretty damn open marriage and don’t go trotting out drinking with friends while one of us stays home up late waiting for the other to show up. I would NEVER put up with a woman who wanted ladies night out and I don’t want a guys night out. I even said if there was a bachelorette party, and a stripper was there…there would not be a wedding at all. Neither would she put up with me having a stripper nor would I even want to. Her friend was pressuring her to go all out with some shit and I put a stop to that immediately as did my wife since she didn’t even want that. We are both simple people not into partying or going out drinking. We ended up ditching ALL of the wedding plans and gave money back to our parents, got married at a court house, and been happy since. No big wedding, no strippers at parties, no going out with “friends” who will push you into sleeping around just to justify it to themselves, ect.
We even talked to a preacher beforehand, and he even told us out of the hundreds of weddings he has done the people who get divorced are almost always the ones who go for the big weddings, parties, ect. Most of the people who have very small weddings or court weddings make it long term.
IDK marriage is hard at times , but it also can be very rewarding.
I have tried to stop trying to cast blame from one person to the next on a failed marriage. I do know that women all most always come out better even when they are in the wrong. I will say I am also tainted some what because I know of two co-workers at different jobs that have committed suicide because of there spouses.
Speaking from experience, I think it’s rather naive to predict how you are going to react/respond to the situation until you have been through the emotional wringer of an unfaithful spouse.
It is the most painful, humiliating, confusing, gut-wrenching, enraging experience I’ve ever been through. And I did some things I would have sworn I would never do or allow to happen. It is big time fucked up and most of that cool, rational “this is how I’d handle it” thinking goes right out the window.
Having the support of family and friends who can listen to all the crazed bullshit and then inject a little sanity into the situation will save your ass.
I grew up in NYC when there were actual western Euro immigrants from places like Italy, Ireland, and a very Catholic Puerto Rican population.
Mistresses were not out of the norm by any means.
Some fathers lived the strict catholic life. Others had something on the side, and a possible kid or two living a few subway stops away. It is what it is.
Still, divorce was damn rare. Incredibly rare. It wasn’t even an option. Someone basically had to die. As a kid I’ve seen husbands and wives damn near kill each other, but the culture and value system ensured divorce rates were looow.
Like I said though, not everyone has the same magic formula.
been with her just over 15 years very happy to see her every day and we work together every day from a home office
