The part about backing the die out three turns keeps it from crimping,once your done seating you can screw the die down and crimp with it also. If doing it this way the brass needs to be pretty close to the same length.
This is why i use the FCD instead , the brass lengths dont matter as much with it.
Iam pretty sure the seating stem is more universal than the higher price dies. But i cant see why it wont work. I dont need to bell so much that it wont fit in the seating die,so thats not it. You probably just need to slow down a bit and make sure the round is started straight.
Theres a lot of lee bashing and they do make better dies, but so far mine have worked fine especially for making plinker ammo or bulk in general. Iam not trying to shoot 500 yards. My .223 is iron sights so theres no sense trying to hit a fly at 1000 yards with it. Mostly just shooting 100 yards with iron sights.
Sense your not trying to make match ammo your dies will be fine , it just takes some tinkering to figure it out.
The dies will smooth out with use like anything else. I tryed to go to fast at first which lead to mistakes also. Now i load fifty or so at a time and do the brass prep. before so all i have to do is bell and load,this helps alot time wise when reloading,i just make bags of F/C,win blazer etc ready to bell and load, separating your brass into brands helps alot. Your seating depths dont vary so much if you keep your brass separated. When i load mixed range brass for plinkers you will definitely get seating depth differences if your trying to seat all at the same COAL.
One thing that helped out alot is when i seat i go slow till the press is extended all the way down. Going fast made seating depth a little all over the place with the cam over. I dont know if this helps but when seating the bullet i hardly feel it go in. Cleaning the seating die when it was new made a lot of difference it seemed to be sticking a bit but after cleaning even the finest adjustment makes a difference now.
PS, belling only makes the mouth wider not deeper,you can adjust your dies up or down like rifle dies, i set mine up per lee instructions. Remember the crimp doesnt hold the bullet in the case , the neck tension does. And you need neck tension to be good you DONT want bullet set back in 9mm that is a bad thing becouse the deeper the bullet the more the pressure. Do a little reading on this. You should be able to push the bullet down on your table HARD and it shouldnt set back, if it does thats not good. Lee dies normaly have good tension and seem to over work the brass a little more than other brands so i doubt that will be a problem.
I dont have the experience the other guys here do,iam only loading pistol now,when i get it down ill move to rifle etc. I like to master one thing before moving on. Like i said you can adjust the dies up or down,but i dont yet,i keep the neck tension as much as i can get to prevent set back. Make sure you brass isnt nicked up around the mouth after resizing and scratching you bullets up. I do the same work on my once fired as my rifle brass trimming to one length and deburring , most people dont, and i dont spend that kinda time on range P/U plinker brass. The wilson case gauge makes checking fast and easy instead of measuring evry round with calipers. Most people dont even do that but i at least use the guage on all rounds to check them to make sure there worth messing with.