First of all, I’m not starting this thread as a “pity party” or a shameless attempt to get everyone’s sympathy posts. I appreciate such sentiments, but save it.
I started this thread as a cautionary tale that you never know when your number is up.
This past Monday night, I went to a friend’s house to collect a UPS package I had sent to his address because I know he’s there all the time, and I knew his address is a lot easier to find than mine.
First, I couldn’t get him on the phone all day. I started getting kind of pissed that he had broken his promise to stay home all day.
When I got to his home, I saw the UPS “attempted delivery” sticker on his door. All his vehicles were there. His screen door was locked but his main door was slightly ajar. I knocked on the door, and yelled inside.
Nothing.
To make a long story short, I decided no one leaves his door ajar this time of year, so I called 911.
Sure enough, my friend of 20+ years had unexpectedly died, probably the very morning my UPS package was slated to arrive. The sheriff’s deputies said he most likely had gotten out of bed, put his pants on, and keeled over.
That’s how I’d like to go: quick. But it sure was unexpected, and I’m still in shock.
You never know when your number is up.
Tell your loved ones how you feel. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
Damn, Doc. That is some of the worst kind news, face to face as it were. My condolences, and hope you and his friends and family are comforted by the fact that his passing was not prolonged.
Truth. You never know when it maybe your time. Just today my sister had a close friend and colleague wake up this morning, go into her bathroom, and keel over. Her husband and daughter heard her cry out and then a thud, they rushed in and she was gone. She had a heart attack, she was only in her mid forties.
That sucks but like you said, he went quickly at least. My wife’s friend just had something similar happen but it wasn’t as quick. Her friend called to cancel on plans they had because she just got word from her doctor that she only had about 4-5 days to live due to an aggressive disease after going to see a doctor because she didn’t feel well. Sure enough, 4 days later she was gone. She was 32 years old with a husband and 2 kids. Not sure if I would want 4-5 days to wait or if I would be tankful for that kind of time to set things right. All I know is I’m thankful every day I wake up and don’t take any day for granted. Near death experiences will have that effect on you. I also seem to be happier and have a better outlook than most so maybe that plays a part too. Either way, RIP to your friend and thoughts are with those who knew him including you.
Thanks, Doc. Those are wise words to keep in mind. We are all going to die at some time and there is no guarantee for any of us to make 85 or 95. We’ve had several friends, mostly fathers of teens die in their 40s and 50s. Some suddenly and some after long illness. And some of the teens we’ve known have died in vehicle accidents. Damn sad.
Definitely. One day when I was 8 my dad went to work, and I never saw him again…he died at work. I am 45 and I still have dreams about him. I tell my wife and kids several times a day what they mean to me and how much I love them.
So true. I lost my father a year ago this coming Sunday. He had been in ill for years w/ Parkinson’s disease and then dementia, and I was fortunate that I had the opportunity to tell him goodbye. This past year, I’ve known 4 people my age (mid 40’s) that have died and died suddenly. No opportunity for their famly/friends to say goodbye.
As other’s have mentioned, tell your loved ones you love them while you can.