Please don’t take any of my comments personally, as we have never met – but there are some important cultural conventions to note.
I am new to Internet forums in general, too. I find the Internet to be a strange place, due to its inherent anonymity, the coldness of typed messages – and often, people vent on the computer to release steam. That, I find, is pretty common.
I suppose, as a cop, encouraging people to follow rules, conventions and to remember the world does not revolve around oneself comes naturally.
In ANY culture where new people want acceptance – including privately owned websites – new people should be encouraged to “invest” in the established community by researching (and searching) before interacting. Just like people who want to become citizens, they are required to invest in their adopted country by learning its history and laws.
New members should be conservative in their approach, since there is no entitlement to be accepted, anywhere. Technical firearms forums tend to be conservative in nature, if not always politically.
IMHO, TOS is a cesspool because people fail to exercise self-restraint, and while there are some decent deals to be found – the level of interaction there is out of control. That is not to say that there are no good members – but WAY too many people joined and acted as if they had a right to be accepted, when NO SUCH RIGHT EXISTS.
There is nothing wrong with being new. Yet, I would strongly suggest that asking questions is NOT the ONLY way to learn, IMHO.
Searching and researching often answers those same questions that new people have, and is perceived as more respectful, considerate and mindful that some tenured members may have already devoted significant effort to answer these same questions.
ALL members find lack of searching annoying, because the new member is self-involved rather than contributing – since after all, the question has probably been asked countless times by other new people. So, searching means that one is not asking the tenured members to duplicate or triplicate their efforts, yet AGAIN.
That’s the beauty of the computer. It is not like doing a hand search is required for membership.
Accordingly, those who choose not to read or follow forum rules, social conventions, or do any simple searches before posting are often perceived as having been inconsiderate of previous efforts. It ain’t about YOU – it is about US.
Further, in my limited experience, I have observed that forum “participation” is NOT the most highly valued activity – CONTRIBUTING is.
There is much encouragement, if one is willing to look for it.
Good luck!