The past year I have noticed that all Internet communities I am involved with becoming a bit more edgy and angry. Considering the political and economic situation in the US, this is understandable. This does not mean that you should take those frustrations out on those who share your interest in the defense use of firearms.
When you are starting a post that you feel might be a bit provocative. Hit the “preview post” button and read your post. Is it going to piss off half the people that read it just by your tone? If it is, change it enough to generate a discussion not an argument. You have your written words and a few smilies to communicate with. There is no body language reading via the Internet and most people do not know who you are, so they will not realize that you are a wealth of knowledge and a great guy.
When you are replying to a post, do the same thing. It adds perhaps 30 seconds to the time you spend on a post, but it might advance the discussion instead of turning the thread into a CF.
Also recall the CoC. Do not post hearsay in technical discussions. If you know that X part breaks on X gun as you have seen it happen, groovy, state as such. If you have spoken to expert Y about this part breaking, state that is your point of reference. If you cannot do so, do not post something as being a fact. If you have to spend three sentences explaining how you came to “know” something, you might want to reassess the validity of the information and see if you can eliminate a bit of the uncertainty.
If you do get into a factual disagreement, avoid ad hominems, attack the facts and methodology not the person. Basic debate rules, real basic rules. Throwing too much Latin debate nomenclature around might make it clearer to you, but realize that it might make it less so for the other parties. See my above usage of ad hominem, used it and then expressed a short definition. Easiest way to do it, not everyone is a JD and will need the English explanation.
This forum is a real wealth of knowledge and experience that doesn’t need to go down the road of a few other forums, where there are cliques and real anger towards other members. So take a minute before you make a post and read your words. If they are unclear or inflammatory, edit them. When you disagree, disagree with the facts. Remember we are all here to learn and exchange knowledge about the defensive usage of firearms, not to beat our E-chest and insult people.
PS: If you are reading this and you feel that I am picking on you and wrote this because of you, that’s called a clue. In all honesty, though, it was the behavior of another forum and seeing 4 locked threads on the first page of the General Discussion area that made me decide to write this.