I'm at my whits end with buffer tubes

Put the stock on the tube. Place it against your hip or have a friend hold it. Tighten castle nut.

I ran into this exact problem with PWS ratchet locking castle nut and end plate. Their end plates were horrible and barely engaged the slot in the tube. I hadn’t encountered anything like that before. I did manage shave off the threads on the A5 tube before I switched back to the tried and true.