now dont get me to wrong, as my wife is understanding, and has even bought stuff without asking or me telling…i guess its more when we talk about it that she seems weired out, then again i guess the thought of having to use the stuff may get to her…not sure
Well, I suspect that different people achieve this by different means but here’s what I’ve done and I’ve been married (happily) for 20 years now:
A) I stopped trying to convince my wife of anything about 10 minutes after the preacher was done talking at the wedding. She has a PhD, several MA’s, and it would be impossible to convince her of anything anyhow thus no need to expend worthless effort.
B) Over the past two decades, we’ve had to evacuate due to wildfires, hurricanes/typhoons, civil unrest (overseas), Etc. - one good evacuation from an event that may completely erase your domicile usually cures most doubters.
C) The current state of the economy makes ‘stocking up’ really easy to justify: when an item you normally use goes on sale, buying more than is needed just for the coming week only makes sense.
D) Worry less about the perceptions of others. Individualism has become a trait bred out of the gene pool due to political correctness - there’s no harm in reintroducing it. So people apparently think you are crazy…and?
When I first started prepping my wife thought I was crazy too. I did it anyway as I feel it is my obligation as a father to do so. I hid most of it from her in the begining to avoid drama. One day she was busting my balls about it & I asked her if she was prepared to feed, shelter, & protect our kids in the event something happened right now. There was a long silence following. I think the recent quake in Japan was a real eye opener for her. She now preps with me.
Check this thread for some good ideas also: https://www.m4carbine.net/showthread.php?t=82424
My wife found a receipt from Costco back in November for some food supplies I bought. I don’t talk to her because I know how she thinks, but we have two little ones and I thought it was too important. She told me I was F%&ing crazy and now we are going through a divorce. Sure it wasn’t the first straw (that was the guns) but it helped.
Just be careful how you go about it.
Sorry, bro, but you’re better off.
If prepping was a factor in her wanting a divorce, she sounds pretty shallow. What, does she think Obama will save her if something happens? I feel bad for your kids. Good luck man.
If your wife is a reader, have her read Lights Out, mine just finished it a week ago and I was shocked to find she had doubled up on my grocery list the last time I went to the store. She was allready onboard with the prepping before that, she has a couple different gardens going right now trying to figure out what the AZ sun won’t kill and she even bought us BOB’s last week. I wish you luck, women can be stubborn creatures.
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The divorce thing is something I don’t like to talk about, but I can say I’m a lot happier now and less stressed out. I still continue to prepare, not just for me but for the kids as well. After reading “One Second After” and seeing what happened after Karena the last thing I want to see is my kids starve to death. I understand this and what is important.
PS: She vetoed for him so I guess he will pay her back when she needs it. :jester:
Wow… sorry to hear, bro. So buying extra food and having the means to defend your loved ones is “crazy”?
I know it sounds cliche as hell, but you are better off.
Whiteknuckles, welcome to M4C!
SuperiorDG, my ex-wife sounds just like your soon to be one. Let me be the first to congradulate you as things DO get better. I’m about to marry for the second time to an amazing woman who is actually thankful for my lifestyle as it gives her peace of mind.
Gosh, sorry to hear about that, divorce is tough on the adults, even worse for the kids. Be strong for them, be confident for them and they will love you even more. I have told my wifey about the “stash” for just in case. She laughs about it but she did ask where it is. She bemoans a little about “rotting” food in the basement…:rolleyes: I told her its ALL canned goods and when the date on the bottom gets near, I’ll eat it and replace it next time at the store. I happily encourage her when she plants a garden, at least she is making an effort to understand how to grow food.
Now, on the guns and ammo front, I am on my own. She is a libertard anti gunner and thinks that having guns makes people want to kill. I am not going to waste my time with arguing about totally irrational thoughts and behavior. I explain that it is my hobby and something that I enjoy and it is left at that. I travel a lot for work and she simply refuses to arm herself for what may go “bump” in the night. She is worried about rape or worse and won’t arm herself. Very strange behavior IMO. We have kids and yet still will not arm herself. Sometimes you just can’t reason. Sorry for the long post, Good luck Superior DG and be strong for your kids.
Holy hell. How did you marry someone like that?
Yup, I’m on #2… she is going to pick up a Glock 26 (her first gun) today or tomorrow.
However, I found out last week she ate two cases of canned green beans (from our food stash) over the last month. I promptly made her go to Costco and replace them.
50% of the time, wife #1 is just a warm up… and I heard 3rd time is the charm 
I’m still having a hard time shaking the visual I got with, “… pull the lightbulb out of your ass…”
To the OP: this might help a little as well https://www.m4carbine.net/showthread.php?t=82424
> > Women’s Grasp of English
> > Yes = No
> > No = Yes
> > Maybe = No
> > We need = I want
> > Do what you want = You’ll pay for this later
> > We need to talk = I need to complain
> > Sure, go ahead = I don’t want you to
> > I’m not upset = Of course I’m upset, you moron!
> > You’re …so manly = You need a shave and a deodorant
> > Be romantic, turn out the lights = I have flabby thighs
> > This kitchen is so inconvenient = I want a new house
> > I heard a noise = I noticed you were almost asleep
> > Do you love me? = I am going to ask for something expensive
> > How much do you love me? = I did something today you are really not going
> > to like
> > I’ll be ready in a minute = Kick off your shoes and find a good game on TV
> > Is my Butt fat? = Tell me I’m beautiful
> > You have to learn to communicate = Just agree with me
> > Are you listening to me? = Too late, you’re dead
> > Was that the baby? = Get out of bed and walk him until he goes to sleep
> > I’m not yelling = Yes, I am yelling, because I think this is important
> > Men’s Grasp of English
> > I’m hungry = I’m hungry
> > I’m sleepy = I’m sleepy
> > I’m tired = I’m tired
> > Do you want to go to a movie? = I’d eventually like to have sex with you
> > Can I take you out to dinner? = I’d eventually like to have sex with you
> > May I have this dance = I’d eventually like to have sex with you
> > Nice dress! = Nice Body!
> > You look tense; Let me give you a massage = I want to fondle you
> > What’s wrong? = I don’t see why you are making such a big deal out of
> > this?
> > What’s wrong? = What meaningless self-inflicted trauma are you going
> > through now?
> > What’s wrong? = I guess sex is out of the question tonight
> > I love you = Let’s have sex now
> > I love you, too = Okay, I said it…we’d better have sex now!
> > Let’s talk = I am trying to impress you by showing that I am a deep and
> > caring person and maybe then you’d like to have sex with me.
> > Will you marry me? = I want to make it illegal for you to have sex with
> > other guys
> > (While shopping) I like that one better = pick any freaking’ dress and let’s go home
:blink:
Mace
My first AR was already bought when I told the wife I wanted an AR. This was during the beltway sniper attacks. I told her I wanted one before there wasma government push to ban them. She said we didn’t need one and I responded it was not a matter on need but want. She insisted that we didn’t need one and I again replied that I had the means and desire to get one. Again she said we didn’t need one, where I immediately responded I didn’t need to get married, I wanted to get married. Needless to say I have quite a few and built her a Wifle of her own. With the track that the country is on and what happened in the aftermath of Katrina my wife totally understands why I do the thing I do. Especially now that we have kids.
Anyone that looks at the news, and isn’t concerned about the future, is the type to be worried about.
Working into it gradually may help as well. I started buying extra cans of things we eat anyways and slowly stock piling stuff. Once she got used to that we over 6 months built up a nice little stock pile. All that she was used to and ok with. So when I wanted to buy frozen 25 year shelf life food it wasn’t a huge jump. It was a wise decision to increase the amount of time our pantry could hold out and increase variety over just canned stuff.
Go to Youtube and show your wife videos of the LA riots and other shit that has happened. Ask her if she wants to end up on the losing end of a shitty situation.
Although California is at the extreme end of the spectrum remind her that during those times of crisis stupid shit happens. No sales of firearms and ammunition. Stupid waiting periods, etc…
Having food and water on hand as well as extra ammo and weapons to keep it is very smart. If you can afford to do it, by all means do so.
As for the spelling and grammar thing. When we see poorly composed sentences, crappy grammar and punctuation. It sets off little alarm bells in peoples minds.
Hopefully I can move far enough away before anything happens that most of the idiots kill each other off before they make it to where I am located.
As far as convincing your wife, there have been some solid suggestions. Me and my wife are from st. Bernard parish LA, south of new Orleans. Whenever I bring things up about preparation she fires back with, I don’t wanna talk about it cuz it scares me.
My chest tightens and I wanna choke her, so I’ll drop it. but every now and then I will tell her about work(I’m a LEO) and current events and she gets the hints…I think.