My daughters are still young (1&3) so I really don’t have any advice, just vid saw recently of father addressing future would be suitors. http://youtu.be/KcIwZ1Dth0c
Different.
With a glance, I can make my daughter cry. She will never need a spankin…how you come at her will have to be different than boys. And you will have to worry about her a WHOLE lot more than sons.
Your daughter will come wipe your ass when you are all laid up in a rest home - Sons not likely.
And she will stir your heart like no son ever can.
Im reading this with dread while suppressing giggles.my 15 month old is napping on my left arm as I type one handed. 98 minutes so far, arm numb, butt cheek hurting… And loving every minute 
7yo son, 3yo daughter.
Skip the frilly girly shit until she can walk. First year is about fluid management and basic motoring. Clothes will get ruined, so second-hand stuff all the way. I’ve never had a formal diaper bag; I just use one of my wife’s old purses for the basics. It’s a baby, not a combat loadout. Again, fluid management. Diapers, wipes, rash cream, single change of clothes.
Crotch maintenance is easy, but they have crevices so make sure it’s cleaned well. Keep a dedicated rag in the bag for a quick dry of the area after changing. Too much moisture will cause yeast infections. She will have some monster messy shits and will get shit inside her labia. Clean well, front to back, dry, and diaper up.
Girls are supposed to potty train faster than boys but IME that’s not true. My son was done in two weeks right before his 3rd birthday. My daughter will be 3yo on the 30th and is just now getting good at telling us when she pissed and if she has to shit. Nowhere near as far along in that process as my son was at the same age.
Manage the hair, manage the pony tail. Get the hair out of her face and keep it out. Let Mom worry about the styling if she can sit for long enough.
CONGRATS think everything has been said so just congrats to all of your family
Congrats, Belmont.
4 girls, 3 boys. Boys require you to be the best dad you can be. Girls require you to be the best dad on the PLANET. As an earlier poster mentioned, you are modeling her future expectations, so a guy better damn well do it right.
Too many dads force tom-boyishness, as if it scores a guy some man points for having a “tough” daughter. Don’t. She’ll do it on her own and be happier.
Take her shooting AND buy her princess toys (for example). She CAN do both without a dad forcing either. My 7 yo helped me hunt and clean a wild turkey last weekend… in a sun dress. It works.
And seriously, don’t let her watch Disney Channel. Trust me.
Thanks. Luckily we have a relative with a 2yo daughter so we are getting a lot of her clothes, a baby changing station, high chair, ect. Main thing for us is going to be diapers, wipes, bottles, and other little disposable items. MIL just got us a stroller, car seat, and crib.
I’ll have to start looking at how to save on diapers. We have a Costco, Walmart (ugh), Baby’s R Us, grocery store, ect all pretty close. Need to figure out their coupon and sale cycles.
As far as the frilly girl shit I’m leaving that one alone. I don’t mind a bit of that myself and the wife is the one giving birth. If she wants a few frilly outfits I’m not going object. We’ve both already talked about how babies don’t need to be dolled up 24/7 but she’s going to want some cute pictures and this is likely to be our last child.
Oh yeah definitely a balance, and every kid is different. Even our twins are becoming more and more unique with personality and how they handle things.
As a dad of now 21 and 16 year old girls there is so much valid and at the same time humorous advice in this thread. Front to back, Mommy Jr, one little prick are all spot on. Girls are more high maintenance. With a boy you wind him up at the start of the day, tell him not to kill anything, and let him loose. Girls will bring the drama into your life like no tomorrow. Wait till she gets her first period. Geez. But it’s all G2G, ya know why? Because from the moment she’s born you’ll wrap yourself around her little pinky finger of your own free will and enjoy it. She is after all your baby.
There is no point giving advice on kids. I have an 18 y.o. and a 14 y.o. daughter. They are both so different that I can’t imagine giving any advice on how to raise them. Feed them, clothe them, treat their mother with respect and all will take care of itself.
I have six kids, 4 boys and 2 girls. My oldest girl (who is 4th in line) is almost 8 and can hold her own against her brothers. The girls and boys are about as different as night and day, and for me, the girls are way easier (so far) than boys. I can see my boys moving out, going to college, joining the service, etc., but I cannot fathom the idea of y girls ever leaving me.
Yeah, I can remember taking the girls dove hunting and deer hunting. It was priceless when the girls would clean the birds with me while their boyfriends watched in shock. The girls now like to shoot pistols and rifles. They tend to shoot better than their male cousins and boyfriends.
Did someone say Dove Hunting? Pheasant too?
edit: arrgh this file uploader drives me nuts; no pheasant pic then…
Nice! Not many pheasants in this part of the world.
As a retired teacher, I have some general advice. Kids do what their friends do. Monitor their running buddies. Distinguish between discipline and punishment. Use common sense when meting out negative consequences for rule infractions. Overly severe consequences are counter productive. Corporeal punishment is likely to do more hard than good, especially if carried out when you’re pissed off. Do things together as a family. Church is a good idea. Extra curricular activities are a great idea. In some respects raising children can be a big pain in the ass and can require great effort at inconvenient times. Hence, for many parents doing the right thing is too much trouble. Often, saying no and not giving in is a terrible task. Children need structure and activities that include chores. Much of what kids learn is modeled by their parents and other adults in their lives. Peer pressure can be a corrosive force. Beware. Good girls get pregnant too. For some teens birth control is a good idea, and no, it is not a license to have sex because doing it does not require a license.
A story of a young woman and her Jack…sorry it leads to a Facebook page
Just figured I’d give an update.
Daughter is at 34 weeks and 2 days. 3 days as of midnight CST.
Anyways been to the hospital twice now, and mommy is still pregnant. First time was a night and released. Second time she spent 4 days in there, and its been quite the emotional roller coaster. We were told by doctors and nurses that she was coming in the next 24 hours, and my MIL ended up flying in from out of state Saturday night. My wife was admitted Friday night. Just got out last night. So my MIL made a wasted trip because they diagnosed her yesterday with a ‘pissed off uterus.’
Not anyones fault and its good our baby is still in there baking. Friday night I got like 30 minutes of sleep. Had to take all weekend off of work. MIL is going to be here till next weekend despite no baby, and now she’s not going to be able to come back out for when our baby is actually born.
Lots of wild emotions with people, and I’ll just say this has doubly reinforced my belief that Facebook and other such social media platforms are a terrible way to communicate. My wife posted one status this morning to let people know whats going on, and within minutes both her phone and my MIL’s were blowing up. I’ve only texted some of this whole ordeal to my good friend who lives around the corner from us, and was prepared to come get our 8 year old twins. He offered to bring us food and such. Thats the real purpose behind smartphones and family/friends. Not social media and drama.
As to the medical stuff behind this I guess our baby is violent, and has been kicking the crap out of mom for a while now. Her uterus wants to expel the aggravation but the rest of her body is saying not yet. So she gets to be on bed rest until the birth which could be weeks, and she has to sit at home with constant contractions. She was as low as 1-2 minutes apart this past weekend. Lots of time 2-3 minutes apart. Imagine birthing contractions for weeks. Thats what she gets to go through. If we lived much further from the hospital they’d have her in there in an antepartum room. They have women in there for months. This hospital is also a high risk facility, and because our twins were pre term by definition they’ve been sending her to the high risk doctors from the start for this one.
The best news out of all this is that my daughter is a very good weight already, and is gonna be a healthy little baby. Pretty much perfect on her end. So healthy she’s beating mommy up non stop, and she goes for hours just kicking. Before all this, our OB even said she was violent during a routine visit to measure things and just a routine visit.
So yeah thats about the sum of things now. lol.
We’ll all keep our fingers crossed, send up a prayer, transmit some positive vibes, etc., continuing to support your wife and daughter. Hang in there (like you’ve got a choice, right?).
Due to medical conditions my (ex)wife possesses, her pregnancy with our son was ‘high risk’ from the start, with him being taken via C-section 4 weeks early. She actually started pre-term labor about 4 months before the due date, so I’m right there with you on the stress/no sleep level. It sounds like you’ve got good medical professionals and facilities, and the on-call friend to help with your other kids, that makes it a lot easier. You’re almost there!
I have two girls, 4 years and 4 months.
Pink and purple are your new favorite colors. Not a choice. Tea parties are a blast, I usually get my tea with corn or watermelon, hot or cold.
They’re feelings are more sensitive. A stern “No”, usually incites tears. I’ve been told twice now that I’ve ruined her life, last time it was because I told her she would have to wait till after dinner for a piece of candy.
They live to love. They want your attention more than anything and will reward you greatly for giving it to them.
Mine has already collected money from my wallet. I guess it’s hers anyway.
Daddy-daughter outings are a must. Mine loves it when I take her to Cabela’s, I don’t know if it’s the aquariums or that she has me to herself for an hour or so. Probably the latter.
She will melt your heart and she will own you and you will be happy for it.
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