A light attachment needs to be as strong as can be, as should anything attached to the firearm.
Even just at the range, I tend to run around a little bit and bump into barricades, slam the gun into the ground, and then it rattles around in my trunk for an hour or so on the way home.
Furthermore, why would you NOT want it as strong as possible? The benefit of a stronger part/mount far outweighs whatever perceived benefit one gets from running a weaker mount.
This is NOT to say that a rail section mounted to standard, plastic handguards, does not have it’s use, as it most emphatically does.
However, the OP asked about a rail system that would be included with a firearm of his choosing.
We don’t NEED any of these things. I, personally, will be running any firearm, AR or not, with at LEAST a white light, probably of the Surefire brand.
I consider a white light as invaluable as the ammunition for the gun. As far as expense goes… One can find a Surefire G2 nitrolon for sub-$60, and a mount can be had for about $45 or cheaper. Less than $100 for what I consider a must-have is nothing in this wonderful world of firearms.
T further address the OP’s concern and original questions…
The proper staking of components on your firearm is not an “upgrade,” it is a necessity. It also really won’t cost you anything, and if you buy from a reputable manufacturer, it will be done for you.
As far as replacing the BCG… I don’t know, as I bought quality the first time.
Buffer? Same thing. Running a heavy buffer in a mid-length gas system seems to be acceptable, and it works. Flawlessly. For 1700 rnds so far.
Everything you’ve stated is STRICTLY user preference. I bought a VLTOR EMOD stock because I like the way it feels, love the cheekweld, and like the way it balances the gun. I bought a Magpul MIAD grip because I hate the finger bump on a standard A2, like the adjustable backstrap, and like the subtle stippling. I don’t have any problem with the infamous gap, so I don’t worry about it. I boyght an Aimpoint Micro H-1 because I wear glasses, and I’ll be damned if it isn’t easier to get good, effective hits with a shiny red dot over what I want to shoot. I added a Larue 12 inch handguard because I have long arms, and my preferred grip has my support hand waaaaay out front, which is very hard to do with a standard 9 inch mid length handguard.
It’s ALL user preference. If you love the finger bump, love the plastic hanguards, love the iron sights, and hate white lights, don’t let anyone tell you different (although, really, you should get a light!).