I would like your opinions on this. All other things being fairly equal, how important do you feel similar views on religion are in a marriage. If so what compromises do you feel are required…
If both people feel strongly then I think pretty similar views are required. If one person feels strongly and the other doesn’t, and just kind of goes-along, then that can work. Although I know of one or two couples where both people feel strongly and are from different religions, I think that is the rare exception, not something that would typically work.
I have several friends in marriages between believers in different religions. I have observed the greatest tension is when/if kids come along. Activities one parent may feel are appropriate may not be appropriate for the other. Some religions discourage or prohibit certain activities on Sunday or Saturday for example. If one parent believes in this and the other doesn’t, do the kids get to play ball games/go shooting/shop/etc. on Sunday/Saturday or not? Just a thought I had.
I’ve seen it work, but wouldn’t want to personally be in that situation.
Do you deal with heartache well?
It’s not impossible but damn … that’s a bridge. If the two of you are so strong that your marriage will be based in large part to bridging religion then yeah. Just remember the camel, the straw, and the power of religion.
Sometimes it’s actually easier to love someone than to marry them.
As long as one did not shove their beliefs down the other’s throat, I can’t see why it wouldn’t work.
Mutual respect is the key.
A couple of years ago, your notion of marriage included a wife, a girlfriend, your girlfriend’s fiancé, and your girlfriend’s baby caught in the middle. Now, you are asking for marriage advice on the Internet? Do really think that what we have to say will be in anyway applicable to the construct that you call a marriage?
Your input on my marriage is not Welcome Sensei. I asked a specific question. You can answer or not. Save your judgement for someone who cares about it.
A bird and fish can fall in love,but where will they live?
I think this sums up the issue well. Haha.
Wife is a fairly devout Mormon. I, as most of you know, am a strong Atheist. Finding a middle ground there is not easy.
it depends on the other person being neutral about things and meaning %100 neutral as in they will be OK with whatever the other side wants to raise the kids to believe
if the religious view is one is not %100 neutral it wont work out to well especially for the kids ! IMHO anyways
my wife’s parents the dad is not religious was raised in England in a catholic school which destroyed it for him but his wife is so he is %100 neutral more like he was and was pushed away so he was never against it so they started on the same side kinda 
and that is my point maybe one can not be against any other side which IMHO many who don’t like religion tend to be against it and with someone religious they may want to convert you the whole time ?
again IMHO it wont work out and going into it one side most likely thinks the other side will change and it can but and a big BUT when kids come along that can change everything and not fare to the kids
if the non believing side thinks religion is silly or stupid or ? IMHO its a waste at that point cause then you basically believe that person is silly or stupid and while one can say well no they would not ? I would disagree cause religion is something that runs really deep and IS the person in many ways
sorry for rambling but tough to answer as its so huge and yet IMHO so simple
As is pretty well known, I’m not terribly religious.
My wife believes she will see her loved ones again. As she has been through some terrible shit, including the death of loved ones when she was very young, there are some things I just leave alone.
Besides I’m technically agnostic so since I can’t say for sure, I just don’t say at all.
I take it that she is FLDS vs. LDS? I think that if you are taking advantage of your wife’s religious beliefs to satisfy your own desires, there will be many issues down the road.
I think a marriage can work with two different religious views as long as one party or both parties are moderate about their religion. For example I think a laid back Catholic and Protestant can have a marriage that works. That said a very devout Jew and Muslim probably is not going to happen nor a devout Christian and Atheist probably won’t work well.
As long as the two people get “fixed” before they get married. If children come into the picture they might as well just split now and call it a day.
I’m Christian and very conservative, my wife is atheist/agnostic (not sure of difference) and very liberal. Been together for 15yrs (off and on) and married for 6. The only thing we argue over is politics, not religion (we didn’t talk for 3days after second time she voted for HIM), some people opposites attract.
I think the good Lord believes in some people more than they might believe in him. My wife has a kinder/gentler heart than most religious people I know (including myself). Best of luck
I don’t see why it should not work unless you make religion the focal point of marriage. If that’s all your marriage is based on then it will probably fail. A lot of my friends are in this situation and they all live fine.
One couple are Christian/Jewish. They do everything together but go to different houses of worship. They are fine with that and it’s not what their marriage is about.
Two other couples the men are athiests and the wives are religious Christian. One very religious. The men are both fine with it and one is even in favor of it. Says it gives him some quiet time Sunday mornings to afternoon. Has time to himself and to relax in a quiet house.
Another friend of mine is eastern Orthodox and getting married to a Chinese Buddhist.
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IF you are devoted to your faith as is called by that faith, it cannot work. If you are a fence-sitter or a Friday/Saturday/Sunday believer and live “by the world” the other 6 days, then it can work. I have been married 3 wonderful years…but married 16 years (just kidding, all 16 have been good), and we are both pretty serious about our faith. I dated a girl who was everything I was not…non-religious, liberal, etc., and we were compatible so long as we did not talk about religion, politics, social issues, education issues, or sports.
Based off the Mormon Doctrine of Salvation alone I will have to comment no. If you dont mind me asking, who is wavering in the marriage?
Ummm mutual respect for those with opposing views/faiths/gender choices is something to strive for in the workplace…not in a marriage.
A marriage works best when both people are from similar religions, socioeconomic, cultural and yes racial backgrounds. This is what I have observed.
I don’t want to start a war with anyone and if you have mixed these things and it has worked for you…fine. However, there is enough obstacles facing two people that join in marriage…you don’t need to be fighting with each other because you have wildly varying religious, political, cultural, economic views or some sort of racial tension between your families.
I say this as one that is married for 24 years to the same woman - a woman from a similar background as mine.
YMMV…